The Power of Female Beauty

"Some people think having large breasts makes a woman stupid. Actually, it's quite the opposite: A woman having large breasts makes men stupid!" - Rita Rudner

By Patrick Driessen

One of the fastest ways to succeed is to use all available powers (e.g. brain power, network power, financial power, etc.) in the best possible way. Today I would like to highlight some of the risks and benefits of the power of female beauty on men, so you can use it to succeed!

My favorite quote by the famous Dutch happy hooker Xaviera Hollander is: "A stiff dick can't think!". I have taken this wise quote as a lesson learned and it really helped me to succeed at various times. There are many ways to use this wisdom to succeed.... I have tried several of them and am still trying and learning more!

It's also why I think beautiful and down-to-earth (non-arrogant) women can be very successful in sales (selling to men)!

It's also why for me it's often challenging to confidently communicate with beautiful women: Maybe it's because I'm a bit introvert, but stunningly beautiful women usualy make me shy... When I meet them, my heart beat triples, my blood pressure doubles, I get a bit nervous and generally I say something really stupid!

And now science is giving us the proof that Miss Xaviera Hollander's wisdom is correct and my unsecure behavior with stunning women can be explained! The Dutch Assistant Professor Dr. Johan C. Karremans and his colleagues at the Radbout University of Nijmegen in The Netherlands tested the prediction that mixed-sex interactions temporarily cause a decline in cognitive functioning. Their conclusion: Interacting with stunning women can make men stupid!

In two studies, they had participants interact with a stranger of either the same or opposite sex and complete a cognitive task both before and after the interaction. In their first study, 40 male participants tended to perform worse on a cognitive task (requiring the constant updating of working memory) following the mixed-sex interaction compared to the same-sex interaction. Interestingly, this effect held independent of whether the participants were romantically involved or single. Also, this effect was even stronger when the male participant reported higher attraction to the opposite-sex person they were interacting with.

In their second study, the researchers had 53 male and 58 female student participants interact with each other, instead of using a confederate for the interactions (like they did in the first study). Men (but not women), likewise, displayed a decline in performance on a different, very cognitively demanding task, requiring both task-switching and inhibition. Also, just like the first study, this effect held independent of whether the participant was currently in a relationship. Additionally, Men (but not women) reported higher levels of impression management in mixed-sex interactions relative to same-sex interactions.

The research authors suggest that these effects may be due to self-presentational concerns when interacting with someone of the opposite sex compared to the same sex. Since impression management isn't easy (it requires careful cognitive control as one is constantly monitoring and modifying one's behavior), it can be very effortful and cognitvely demanding, thus depleting an individual's cognitive resources and therefore can result in declined cognitive performance after the interaction.

As for why effect was most pronounced in men, the researchers cite research that suggests that "compared to women, men are more likely to consider mixed-sex interactions in terms of a mating game.", and therefore "men in particular might therefore be prone to engage in effortful and cognitively demanding attempts to impress an opposite-sex partner."

The researchers do offer some alternative explanations for their findings. Perhaps traditional sex roles that emphasize that men are expected to take the initiative in mixed-sex interactions cause men to exert more cognitive resources to act in accord with these expectancies. The research shows that men are more likely than woman to gauge sexual interest, overestimate sexual interest, and activate mating goals when interacting with women. The advice is to keep our male hormones and sex lust under control!

Some of the practical implications of these findings which also proof the wisdom of Miss Hollander: If you want to create a high performing business team which consists of males and females; you might want to consider to select not the most attractive looking women for your A-Team, so the male team members will not be distracted! If you want to create a very powerful team to blast most men away: select only the most beautiful women for your team! If your child(ren) need to go to high-school, it might be worthwhile to send them to a single-sex school, so they can better concentrate... If you want to withstand the beauty of stunning women and successfully communicate with them; as a man we better prepare ourself and practice before we'll meet the next gorgeous woman!

"Sex and beauty are inseparable, like life and consciousness. And the intelligence which goes with sex and beauty, and arises out of sex and beauty, is intuition!" - D. H. Lawrence

Make this a Positive & BEAUTIFUL day....unless you have other plans!

Thanks, warm regards & success,

Patrick Driessen